I read an article on Facebook recently about how self-care isn’t what society is telling us it is. It said we use self-care to avoid our problems and live in a society that promotes self-care to escape from our realities is pretty much pathetic. I never thought about it this way, but I can’t stop thinking about it, so I thought I would share my thoughts. Reading this was very eye-opening to me, and I agree with it on certain levels. Self-care is not buying a whole bottle of wine to drink or tub of ice cream or taking a bath to avoid our problems, because this is just prolonging the anxiousness, stress, dread that is hanging over our heads. It is to appease us for an hour, but then we are going back to feeling all the feelings we were trying to block out (with even more guilt piled on top probably).
Self-care is diving deep inside your soul to figure out what the problem is. Self-care is looking at yourself in the mirror and coming up with a strategy that is going to help you conquer that fear, anxiety, pain, stress, weight gain/loss, etc. Self-care is taking active steps to a better life that won’t make you feel like you need to escape your own life with a tub of ice cream and spoon. This is way harder said than done. I have spent many nights crying into a pillow, having panic attacks, eating too many sweets, or having one too many glasses of wine, BUT, isn’t it just an epiphany that we can solve our problems. We don’t have to feel sorry for ourselves. We are the only ones who can actually “treat “ourselves by coming up with a solution or working towards one. Whenever I would tell my mom I’m anxious in college or to apply to jobs, she always would say, “well, once you start working on it, you’ll feel better,” and I only ever applied this to tasks. This is so true for just life in general. People always say, or you see the memes that say “ever just feel so stressed out, you do nothing?” and it’s a picture of someone sitting on a couch watching TV, and EVERYBODY relates to it. But, that is where the stressed-out feeling is coming from. People always want to avoid their problems. They think and hope somehow if they avoid it long enough, it will magically disappear, but it just manifests. We get stuck in our path, and we think that there is no way out. Maybe you hate your job, going through relationship issues, you feel lost blah blah blah but WHY! In life, there aren’t any rules. Create a life you love and are passionate about. Solve problems, forgive people, live your life to the absolute fullest!!! And, if you do feel stuck, don’t, you’re not a tree – you don’t have roots, MOVE! Use self-care to enjoy your life more, not to escape from it.
“Self – care isn’t just holidays and massages. It’s working on your habits, mindset and healing your past. It’s removing toxic thoughts, people and places in your life. It’s living intentionally, purposefully and consciously.” XO